Today I was thinking about several things. First and foremost the idea of a friend. What's in it? Who can you say is a true friend? Is it those that you've known longest, or the ones that you can say anything to and they would love you no matter what. Is it those friends that you do a lot of things with and talk about nothing important or the ones that you do nothing but hang out with and talk endlessly about everything and anything. Is it the hundreds of facebook friends that you have and haven't seen in years, or the one friend that doesn't have facebook at all and relies on a simple phone call?
Call me crazy, but I feel most at home with the many friends that I have met in more recent times and know that most of the people in my life right now are definitely meant to be there for the long haul. In this past year I have met friends that I am closer with than people I have known since I was five.
The real question is how long is too long? Do friendships have an expiry date? At what point does it become redundant and the things you do become irrelevant or essentially un-fun? Why is it that we can have friends that we hang with all the time, and we have less and less in common with?
My only vice is never knowing how to say no. Never knowing how to approach people and say exactly what the problem is and then decide whether it's worth trying to figure out.
The only solution is just to be friends with those that you can and care less about the ones that make you miserable. Even though it hurts sometimes to break a bond because familiarity is more comfortable; it is sometimes necessary to leave the ones your think you care about most. Because sometimes the ones you cared about most are the ones that hurt you the most without even realizing it.
Conclusively, i've resolved to spend time with those that make me happiest and not worry about society's ideas about how we should act towards people. Call me selfish, but the lines for what constitute a good friend in this day and age are blurry and looking out for your own needs is one of the most important things in life as long as you aren't hurting anyone else.
That's all from me for now,
Signed, a little bit clearer and more content.
:) peace.
Monday, February 13, 2012
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